In every relationship, there will be disruptions. Some of these will be minor and passing, and some will be deep and lasting. Disruptions are normal and unavoidable. How we fix them can strengthen and deepen our relationships. Whether between parent and child or intimate partners, having someone take the time to notice the disconnect and make an effort to reconnect with us gives us a stronger sense of security in that relationship. In fact, repair actually makes a relationship stronger. It tells us that we can make mistakes without fear of the relationship ending. Repair is an active process to be initiated by the parent, (or in a love relationship, by either partner) to soothe the wound and make the person feel safe within the relationship again.